It has happened to all of us. And figuring out when a woman likes you is the first thing you must be able to pick up on if you are going to be successful at dating women.

After all, if you can’t tell when she likes you, how are you going to know when to make a move? Exactly…you won’t.

This is the first challenge that we face when working with clients. Often they will initiate an interaction with a woman, chat with her and get her laughing, then come back to us and say that they didn’t think that the woman was interested.

Now I can’t stress enough how important it really is to be able to tell if a girl likes you or not. In fact, it is safe to say that this is a crucial make-or-break moment during any male/female interaction.

If you are not able to tell whether the girl likes you, you will likely try to do things to impress her, say things that are awkward and weird that ultimately ruins the moment.

Ask yourself this…how much would the way you spoke and interacted with women change if you knew in the back of your mind that this girl was into you?

Probably a lot. You would naturally feel more comfortable around her, and will be able to know like a psychic exactly when to ask her for her phone number or go for the kiss.

So how do you figure this out? There is some really bad information out there regarding how to tell when a girl likes you. Many “dating gurus” will tell you that it is important to wait for a certain number of unconscious signals that let you know what the woman is thinking, otherwise known as “indicators of interest.”

The problem with this approach is that if you are waiting for signs that the girl is interested in you, you are shooting yourself in the foot. You see…if you wait to see those signals, the woman will wonder why you aren’t reciprocating her attraction by making a move on her.

By the time she sends those signals and you pick up on them…she has lost any attraction towards you that she may have felt at first. Think of those signals as ghosts of her past attraction towards you…once you see them, you’re dead.

The first crucial piece of knowing if a girl likes you is to flip-flop the way you approach meeting women. Most guys interact with women waiting for the go ahead or the “green light” to continue moving the interaction forward.

However, if you really want to know if a woman likes you, all you need to do is try to escalate the situation. If you are sitting, suggest that you go to the bar to grab a drink. If you are at the bar, suggest that you go dancing. Ask for her number, suggest you do something later in the week, go for the kiss…anything!

The point is by moving the interaction forward you will not only speed up the interaction, you will also be able to tell if a girl likes you because she WILL GO ALONG WITH YOUR ADVANCES.

And if she doesn’t? Then you lost nothing to begin with and she is not yet attracted enough to you…at least now you know where you stand with her and can proceed accordingly. So long story short, the best way to tell if a girl likes you is to move the interaction forward and wait to see her response. Trust me nothing but good will come of this.

If you want to learn more about how to properly move interactions with women forward without any rejection or awkwardness check out our live program page to see how you can get the results with women you have always dreamed about.

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7. Trying Too Hard

Have you ever seen a guy who was so obviously trying to act cool or look important, but he just ended up being the guy all the women laughed about later and made fun of? Sure you have. Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had attractive female friends that always seem to hookup with the guy who “doesn’t seem to care”… but for some reason they never considered you, even though you put in way more effort.

What’s up with that? Actually it’s very simple…

Women don’t hookup with the guy who’s “putting in the most effort.” They hookup with guys they perceive to be “attractive” — which is just a convenient way to say “guys they think are cooler than they are.” And nothing says to a woman “you’re way cooler than me” than a guy who exerts a lot of effort in an interaction — especially when meeting someone for the first time.

I realize this isn’t always obvious. It may be hard to chill out and stop trying so hard… but get used to it. Until you relax and keep yourself from obviously trying to get her attention and attraction, you’ll never even get off the ground with attractive women.

6. Chatting But Not Attracting

What do most guys do when they are talking with a woman they find attractive? Right! They turn into Dr. Phil and play daytime talk show host as they “interview her” and try to pick topics she likes…

Well, here’s a newsflash for you: You will NEVER SPARK ATTRACTION WITH A WOMAN BY JUST AIMLESSLY CHATTING WITH HER! Woman are stimulated by emotions and tension (a.k.a. flirting

). Just think of the adventurous types of men women tend to like… bad boys, rock stars, and celebrities.

For most of us guys, women don’t immediately drool over us based on our looks or status. So how in the world do we expect to stoke her attraction by just having a boring chat? Yet we all do it. When a woman gives us her attention, we try to play it safe, ask the questions we think she’ll like, talk about stuff that’s neutral or common, and do our best to keep her talking to us. Bad idea. One that will never fan the flames of her attraction.

5. Apologize For Liking Her

Another huge and avoidable mistake that most guys make with when approach a woman is apologizing for feeling attracted to her. Or even apologizing for wanting to talk to her. Attractive women intimidate most guys. And they get men bending over backwards to appease them all the time. Men jump through their hoops, do whatever it takes to keep them happy, and often go out of their way to make sure they feel “comfortable” and “not offended.”

And guess what? Attractive women wait until guy-after-guy admits SHAMEFULLY that he’s attracted to her. Sometimes the guy doesn’t come outright and say it, instead he’ll pretend he’s interested in something she likes and use that as a pretext for a date: “Let’s go see Twilight together. And I’ll pay!” Even if the guy actually has the balls to tell her directly, often he first apologizes for wanting to talk to her: “I’m sorry to bother you but…”

This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who are so intimidated by her that you feel you the need to “hide” or “apologize for” the fact you like her. All because you think that makes her feel “more comfortable” around you.

Don’t do it. Be confident in your feelings. You don’t need to come right out and proclaim exactly what you’re feeling, but definitely don’t try to cover it up. Or apologize for it.

4. Taking Yourself Too Seriously

One of the most common mistakes that a guy can make is getting overly emotional before a woman even knows him. Because he is taking the interaction (and himself) way too seriously… and investing all of his male ego and pride into one interaction, with one girl (who he doesn’t even know yet!). And sure, as men, it can be hard to get over our pride when approaching a woman for the first time.

But YOU MUST.

We all know women love men with a sense of humor, yet how can we be “funny” or even “interesting” if we are trying to micromanage every aspect of an interaction with an attractive woman? Instead, relax. Lighten up. Learn to laugh a little at yourself. And you’ll see this attitude will attract women to you like a magnet.

3. Making It Obvious You Rehearsed Your Approach

Earlier I mentioned that it’s a mistake to try so hard that you make it apparent you see the woman as “cooler” than you. Well, another way men signal to a woman they feel “less cool” than her is by rehearsing their approach. Put another way, guys worry about every detail of an approach—from the opening line to how to ask for her number — and they play and replay the scene in their head. Another bad idea.

Women are never attracted to men who aren’t in control of a situation and display leadership qualities (a.k.a., confidence.) Women just aren’t attracted to insecure wimps! Don’t worry that you need to rehearse every detail before approaching a woman. Just do it—and feel confident that you can handle whatever happens.

2. Not Understanding How To Tactfully Move Things Forward

Now I’m going to blow you away with a little insider dating secret: A woman is expecting you to move an interaction forward… and actually will get turned off if you fail to do so. Let me say this again: If you don’t move an interaction toward intimacy and get physical with her, women will actually LOSE their attraction to you.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you’re talking to a girl for more than a couple minutes, she’s probably already thinking, “Okay, when is going to ask for my number?” or even, “Okay, so when is he going to kiss me?” And if you don’t do it — or fail to do it smoothly — then she’ll actually “cool off” and start thinking of ways to dismiss you: “I think we’re better off just being friends…”

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating. Confidently approaching a woman, going for the number, asking her out, kissing her, getting sexual… everything. If you hesitate or don’t know what to do in each situation, you will end up losing EVERYTHING. And you know it.

It is crucial that you understand how to tactfully move from one step to the next with a woman, from the approach, all the way to the bedroom.

1. Not Seeking Out Direction or Help

Here it is: The most deadly mistake men make that ensures they remain single and never date the girl they really want. This is the one mistake that holds men back from EVER having the kind of success with women that would leave them truly satisfied. I know, we’re guys so we hate to seem helpless—we don’t even like to ask for directions, let alone dating help.

I’d know, I was there myself at one point. A couple years ago, I moved to New York City after graduating college and felt completely frustrated that I’d pass beautiful women all day, but I didn’t have a clue how to approach them, meet them, and get dates with them. It was like slow torture!

One weekend I met up with a friend from college, and we spotted two women we wanted to meet, but neither of us had the balls to approach them. I can still see the movie of that night playing in my head. Right then I decided I had to do whatever it took to learn how to successfully meet and date women.

Well, after lots of “field work” and trying all kinds of crazy tips and techniques, I finally mastered it. And it was definitely worth it. I no longer feel that paralyzing feeling of insecurity… like I don’t know if I’ll ever meet a girl I’m really attracted to, and I might end up single forever. I know that I can just stroll outside and meet beautiful woman anytime, anywhere. And you can too.

I’ve written a book on the topic, and I’ve coached guys all across the United States, and taught thousands of men all across the world. If you’re serious about getting this area of your life handled and you want to discover what really works, click on the link below to learn more.

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Speak the Language of Hot Women

Talking to hot girls can seem like a daunting task. I once thought I needed a mouthpiece that rivaled Oscar Wilde just to perk a beautiful woman’s interests. It always seemed as if what I had to say wasn’t good enough, funny enough, or intelligent enough.

Later I realized what I have to say IS good enough, funny enough, and intelligent enough; although, I only realized that because I learned HOW to communicate with women in the right way. Rather than talk to girls as if I were conversing with a friend or another guy, I developed an understanding of HOW to communicate with women.

While my thoughts were exactly the same, the way girls responded to those thoughts was radically different. I found I could attract women while “being myself” so long as I understood the right way to talk. The 4 pointers below are ways you, too, can communicate YOUR unique personality in a way that’s incredibly attractive to hot women.

1. Make It About You and Her

Whenever flirting with a girl, you want to create a connection in as little time as possible. The sooner you can transition yourself from “stranger” to “attractive guy” the better. The fastest way to do that is by creating a “you and me” vibe.

There are a few ways to do this.

• You can play it humorous: “Hey, you look like my future ex-wife”
• You can play it as a way of creating rapport: “Wow, I think me and you are the only two people in this bar who truly appreciate Phil Collins”
• You can even play it serious: “Hi, I’m Rob. I just had to come over to meet you”

There’s usually no good reason to drive a wedge between you and a woman you’ve just met. In fact, creating a “you and me” vibe preempts future bullshit because it gives you a reason to get along if things unexpectedly go south, e.g.: “Honey, why would you treat the only other soul who enjoys Phil Collins like this? Come on, this isn’t us…”

Whether you create role-plays for one another, bond over common interests, or just connect through the environment or situation, the theme of “you and her” should permeate throughout the interaction and, ideally, your relationship.

2. Creating & Balancing Sexual Tension

Tension moves an interaction forward. Injecting tension into a conversation makes it fun, interesting, perhaps a bit awkward, but ultimately incredibly attractive to a girl.

To understand tension is to understand confidence. That’s because tension comes from two polarities pulling in different directions. If you’re a wimpy, unconfident guy then a woman’s polarity will pull you, deflating all the tension necessary for “chemistry.” (This is what usually happens to “nice guys.”)

Once you understand how/why tension works, start “holding the line” and creating moments of tension when conversing with women. By knowing your boundaries and interests, you can confidently disagree with a girl if she says something you don’t like. Women want to see that you’re a man with your own interests and tastes.

So if she starts rapping about Britney Spears or whatever topic you don’t care about, saying, “Yeah, I’m not into that at all” will create tension. This doesn’t contradict the “you and her” vibe because it’s still you and her, but it’s the REAL you and her…not “fake-you-pretending-to-be-a-girl and her.”

3. The Benefits of Humor

Mixing a sexual conversation with humor is the best way to keep things moving forward with charismatic ease. Rather than list the obvious benefits of humor, let’s cut right to the pointers on funniness.

One very easy but effective way to be funny is by exaggerating everything. Taking simple, everyday things and making them dramatic and over-the-top is an easy way to get girls laughing. So, as an example, if you were asking a girl to meet you at Starbucks, it’d be funny to say something like,

“Oh my God, I’m bringing you to this coffee place that’s pure magic. It’s the best-kept secret in all of Manhattan…but I’ll expose you to the culture and décor known as STARBUCKS. This place is incredible, you can’t even order in English…they have their own Starbucks language with sizes like tall, grande, and vente. Lucky for you, I can translate.”

Another way to quickly improve your humor is by collecting funny phrases or labels. Teasing girls with names like “Chatty Cathy” (if she’s talking too much) or asking if she’s a “wino” (if she’s drinking wine) always get a laugh. Reading good fiction or watching funny movies are great places to mine for comedy gold. Words like “he-bitch,” “wankster,” “diva,” and “twat swatter” are all words and sayings I’ve heard in pop culture and have incorporated into my lexicon of hilarity.

Open your eyes and start collecting the funny!

4. Use Everything Around You

The only guys who “run out of things to say” are guys who are walking around with blinders on. If you open your eyes, you’ll find a world of things to talk about with women. Everything from how she’s dressed to observations about the people around you should inspire great conversation.

For example, I routinely grab a girl’s hand, examine her rings and exclaim nonsense like, “Ohhhh!! Bling bling!!” or grab a girl’s necklace and say, “Cute. I like. I’m gonna steal it.” I could probably have a conversation with a girl for an entire night based solely on making stupid comments about her accessories.

And if that ever goes south, looking around the room and making up stories about the people you see never gets old, either. I usually like to keep things sexual, so I’ll usually point out some couple and say things like, “I’ll bet they have really bad sex” or (more PG-rated), “Do you think that’s her boyfriend or do you think that chick is having a secret affair?”

If you’re cognizant of what’s in front of you, you should never run out of things to “riff” on.

“…See You Out There”

Take these pointers and try them out. But be patient. Learning to cultivate the gift of gab takes practice and time. Be willing to mess it up and look like an idiot.

In fact, acknowledging your mistakes can create great conversation. When I say something dumb (which is more than I’d like to admit), I usually just roll my eyes, snicker, and tell the girl, “Wow, that was so stupid. The stuff that comes out of my mouth sometimes…”

Being a good conversationalist comes back to the belief that what you have to say is good enough for any girl (even if it’s “so stupid”). So with these pointers in mind, go out, talk to some girls and turn that belief into a conviction!

Happy chatting!

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But it’s not.

That’s because one creepy move in your social could cost you friends. You don’t want to be the guy everyone’s talking about because of an inappropriate comment or a poorly timed move. Messing up with the girls in your social circle can be a very awkward and embarrassing experience. So avoid those mistakes by adhering to these tips.

By keeping these simple pointers in mind, you can instantly improve your approach with the girls in your social circle:

1. Casual is key.

Being casual and nonchalant is always important when trying to get hook up with girls. However it is even more important when dealing with girls in your social circle.

Being casual removes the added tension that is created by letting a girl in your social group know how you feel about her. She will be nervous whether she likes you or not, because either way she runs the risk of offending her peers – whether it’s you or her other friends.

By being casual, you allow her to feel comfortable letting you know the TRUTH without feeling socially pressured one way or the other. Furthermore, by being casual, you drastically reduce the possibility of a harsh rejection. Which is key to avoiding damage control.

2. It’s not about what you say, it’s about what she sees.

When interacting with a woman you just met at a bar type setting the outcome depends on the interaction you have with her. That means the conversation, the emotions you cause her to experience, the type of person that you demonstrate yourself to be, all the stuff we talk about in The 4 Elements of Game.

When you are kickin’ it to a girl in your social group, these things are equally important, however slightly different. This is because the girl has the unique opportunity to observe how you interact with others.

To a woman this is a far better indicator of the person you are in real life because you are not actively trying to impress or hit on her. So for instance if you are polite to her, but abusive towards your other friends, she will have a pretty good idea of who you are and most likely not be attracted to you regardless of your one-on-one interactions.

Instead, recognize that a woman would rather observe your actions for herself, rather than hear you talk about yourself. Whenever she is present make sure to display the actions and behaviors you want her to connect with you when interacting with others.

If you have your 4 Elements of Game balanced, then she will be watching and growing attracted to you.

ADVANCED TIP: To really play this up, when you are with the girl you want, act differently with her after letting her see your awesome side with others.

The mixed signals will drive her nuts. Makes sure to move it forward however, and let her know that you like her, or those mixed signals will ultimately drive her away.

NOTE: This does not mean to neg and or be rude to her. It just means, if you are super talkative around others, be somewhat quiet or bashful when interacting with her. It creates a strong back drop of emotions to work with when you ultimately confess your desire for her.

3. Be at the right place at the right time.

Do not spend too much time in this girl’s presence. Being overly available to her decreases the potency of your presence. If you are always at every party she is at, but you never make your move…the tension will be more awkward to build in a social situation.

Instead, choose when you want to make your move (whether asking for her number or going for the kiss, etc.), and strategically avoid having too much contact with her prior to this.

By being overly available, you signal to her that you are common and don’t have much else going on in your life. By sparingly choosing when you see her, you preserve an air of mystery that will pay off dividends later on.

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To be honest it is not your fault that you don’t know how to properly approach women. Society often encourages individuality, and unfortunately some basic social skills get lost as a result.

What’s worse is that the information that’s already out there about how to begin a good conversation with a girl is absolute horse shit. I just read an article on this very subject on a popular blog devoted to men and dating skills. This site claims to be an authority for years…and their advice sucked.

The article advised guys to talk to talk to girls using open-ended questions so that the conversation will not die. One example was that if you see a girl in a coffee shop you should say, “what do you think of that mug?” The logic is that by asking what she thinks about it, it will guarantee she has a response. This is fine…if you’re an idiot.

Then there is the good old fashioned “opinion opener” where you go up to a girl and ask for her opinion as a female on some fabricated scenario that you read in a book. This technique will certainly demonstrate your personality to the girls you approach – a guy that is so out of touch with himself and reality, that you need a fake excuse to engage people in conversation.

Finally there is the “direct” approach to beginning conversations with women. This style advocates that you walk right up to a girl and tell her that you like her, or find her attractive and want her number. This is a little better than the previous options, but if this is your style you might prefer to just club her over the head and drag her back to your cave.

So what’s the foolproof trick to begin a conversation with a girl? Right in the middle. “What the fuck does that mean?” you might be asking yourself. It is so simple that you will be shocked at how effective this is.

‘Beginning in the middle’ means that you should go up to the girl and just start talking as if you are continuing a previous conversation. Skip the introduction, skip the opening line, just jump ahead of it all.

When you do this, it really doesn’t matter what you are saying. No matter what you say to her, it will be random and out of context – there is no way for it not to be.

But it will generate intrigue so fast it will make her head spin. She will be wondering if you two have met before, but she will not recognize your face. She may wonder if you have confused her with someone else.

Either way, she will drop her guard will want some sort of resolution to what is going on and her curiosity will drive her crazy. Now, instead of you trying to introduce yourself to her, she will already be trying to figure out who you are and what the hell you’re all about…and your job just got that much easier.

From there the conversation has begun and you can even feel free to back up to the introduction stage. After this sort of first impression a proper introduction will be anything but boring.

Here is an example of how this would play out in a grocery store.

You: “Those apples are no good for making sangria.”
Her: “Wtf???”
You: “Especially with a heavier wine it will just be too sweet to tolerate.”
Her: “Do I know you from somewhere?”
You: “Oh sorry, I’m Greg.”

From this point there is a ton of unanswered questions, such as “why the f#@k are you talking to me.” This is a GOOD thing, and is at the center of what Rob talks about in The 4 Elements of Game. This sort of approach builds tension…fast. That tension will be released as the two of you fill in the missing pieces – together.

Now you have a reason to tell her that you thought she was cute, or explain that you wanted to meet her. But rather than simply throwing all your cards on the table, you can instantly and effortlessly add a layer of intrigue by simply ‘beginning in the middle.’

You can then get right back to what you were talking about, giving you not only something to say, but also something to propose that you two go off and do together. In the example above, the obvious move is to suggest that you two go make sangria – after a brief introduction of course.

Now this is not the only way to begin conversations, but it is one great quick fix for guys looking for instant results with very little thought or effort.

Try it out and let me know what you think!

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I hear guys say all the time, “I can get phone numbers, but they either flake, or don’t respond.” Trust me I understand. I too have been a victim of flakey or unresponsive numbers.

The main reason these numbers flake is because the initial text message, the one that reminds her of what it was like to interact with you, and the one that sets the context for the rest of the text exchange, is conveying harmful things that you are probably not aware of.

The main mistakes that I see occur over and over include:

1. ASKING HER WHAT SHE IS DOING

Example: “Hey Susie, what’s up?”

Why this sucks: This fails because it is requiring a girl that you barely know to put in effort in order to interact with you. Essentially, it is as if you are asking a stranger to borrow money. This sort of text communicates to her that if she decides to meet up, she will need to put in effort to keep the vibe fun – in which case there is little incentive for her to go out of her way to hang out with you.

2. ASKING IF SHE IS AVAILABLE

Example: “I thought maybe we could go grab a coffee tomorrow, are you free?

Why this sucks: This type of message illustrates one of the most common mistakes. This is such a silent killer of hook ups that guys probably don’t even realize that they are doing it. Guys think that by asking if a girl is free, they have a better chance of securing the meet up because she doesn’t have other plans, or if she does it will assist in determining the “best” time for her to hang out.

The problem here is that again this message is carrying damaging undertones. I prefer to let girls know what I’m up to and invite them to get involved. If she can’t make it to some cool party or bar to hang out, she will be more likely to suggest an alternate plan that she WILL keep if I haven’t already tried to maneuver through her social calendar already.

3. NOT HAVING A PLAN

Example: “Hey Nikki thought that we could go to a movie or grab a drink sometime.”

Why this sucks: By not having a plan, you’re fucked. It’s that simple. It is a man’s job to have a plan and carry out that plan like a 5-star general. This doesn’t mean that you cannot be flexible or spontaneous, but you must have some sort of an agenda that leads to you two hooking up in order for it to go down. That means a specific bar or a specific movie – a solid plan to give her confidence that you are the type of man that can plan for things and get things done.

So now that we have covered 3 killers to text message success, here are 3 easy steps to sending a perfect text message every time.

1. FOLLOW THE FORMULA: X+Y=SEX (“I’m doing X right now, let’s do Y later.”)

Example: “Hey Sally, I’m out to brunch with some friends, let’s grab a drink tonight.”

Why this is awesome: This formula conveys your personality from the very first text. It doesn’t matter how cool whatever you’re doing is, it is just important to communicate that you are a guy who does things other than sitting home attempting to lure this girl out somewhere.

Furthermore, it let’s her know the type of things that you do in your free time which will spark interest and have her mind racing of who you are in real life. When you guys meet up she may even ask you questions about whatever it is that you were up to. How much easier could getting a conversation going than having her start it!

2. DELETE UNECCESSARY WORDS

Example: “Hey Sally, I’m with some friends right now at brunch. Don’t know if you’ve heard of it but let’s grab a drink at the Rio tonight.”

Why this is awesome: Don’t say in five words what you can say in one. Brevity is rare these days, and guys are always saying too much to girls to begin with. By being short and to the point it accomplishes several things. Firstly, you are being concise and making the point of your message clear – “let’s hang out.”

Secondly, if you are nervous about meeting up with this girl, actively stripping away the bullshit puts you in the right mindset to meet up with her.

Finally, an interaction should be a two way street. If you tell her everything, there will be nothing for her to ask you about.

3. FORCE THE RESPONSE THAT YOU WANT

Example: “Hey Sally, I’m out to brunch with some friends, let’s grab a drink tonight. Let me know.”

Why this is awesome: By adding a small phrase at the end of your text that tells her to take some kind of action step improves your chances of a response 200%. Even if she cannot meet up, she will be more likely to suggest a different time that works better for her. Simply add this prompt at the end of a text and watch your results sky rocket.

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You guys probably are thinking, “Of course this will get you girls.” But this is no story of glory. This is a cautionary tale of the 5 most common mistakes that men make when trying to pick up girls.

It happened as follows – my friends met some girls at a bar after we left the beach. They made plans to hang out later, and we parted ways. The rest was all downhill.

The girls came to the boat for drinks, my friends spent the whole night sitting on the couch in a group talking to the girls and pouring more drinks. By the next morning the girls had gone and the hangovers had set in.

While on vacation with friends I don’t step in too much, I’d rather watch my friends have fun and potentially witness a good crash and burn. But I laughed to myself thinking that all the mistakes my friends were making were so common, that it was worth turning it into a learning experience.

So here is the list of the 5 most common mistakes that I always see guys make (including my friends), and a few quick fixes to avoid the problem.

1. Failing to move the interaction forward

While it was fine for my friends to have fun in a group and chat it up, it was not OK to let the interaction linger there all night. How could sitting and talking = hooking up? Impossible!

How to fix it: Instead of doing the same thing the whole time, they should have done something different – anything! Point is, if the interaction isn’t moving forward, it will die.

This happens so often to guys whether they realize it or not. Ever wonder why your conversations die out after a minute or so? It is because you are failing to move your interactions forward. Go to the bar, play a drinking game, give a tour of your place (or boat), whatever!

2. Too much chatting

I always hear guys just chatting with girls. Typical “guy logic” says that if they can just say enough or say the right thing that the girl will decide to sleep with him. Wrong. Fact is the more you talk to her the more chances you have to shoot yourself in the foot. It’s time to learn when to shut up.

How to fix it: Actions speak louder than words. Rather than overly talking her up, or what I like to call “trying to convince her to sleep with you,” show her what its like to be with you.

Give her the experience rather than the conversation. This means DOING fun things…not talking about them. Even if you have no business dating hot girls, this will STILL get you better results than a good looking guy who fails to make a move.

3. Failing to pull the trigger

By not going for the kiss you are blowing the deal. Plain and simple. It sends the wrong message to a girl – that you don’t like her. If you two are hanging out and are into each other it is simply rude to not kiss her. If she is not interested she will let you know.

How to fix it: Guys are so worried about waiting for the right time, or knowing whether or not she is “ready to be kissed.” Let me ask you this – are YOU ready to be kissed? If you are feeling like it, then most likely she is as well. This is because if you aren’t getting along you will be so concerned with fixing the situation, that kissing her will not be on your mind.

So when kissing her does come to mind, it is most likely because it is the appropriate time to kiss and set the sexual context for this relationship. Trust your instinct and just do it.

4. Not allowing for alone time

A girl needs to get to know who you are one-on-one to see what it will be like to be with you. Also, girls might feel self-conscious in front of their friends and as a result, she will not allow herself to like you, or to keep an open mind.

How to fix it: My buddies had plenty of opportunities to take their girls by the hand and take them to another part of the boat to check out the scenery, get to know each other, and set up the kiss.

You always have an excuse to be alone, whether it is on a walk, on the dance floor, or at a café. Find time to be alone with her, and get to experience each other on a more real and personal level.

Advanced bonus: Start setting up these one-on-one situations ASAP. That means within the first 5 minutes of meeting a girl and you will see the ridiculous results of your efforts, I promise.

5. Failing to set a sexual context

If you do not set a sexual context to your interactions, they will not be sexual. It is that simple. If you like a girl, and want to hook up with her, it is NECESSARY to set a context for your relationship that leads to you two hooking up at the end of the night.

How to fix it: The first step is to get it into your head that you and her are going to hook up. a quick fix is to visualize it actually going down. That way there is a greater chance that it plays out that way in the end. But don’t just leave it up to luck.

Everything you do from sharing drinks together, to the things you choose to talk to her about, should be they type of things that you would say to a girl that you are into. If you simply talk to her and treat her how you would treat your friends, that’s all you will ever be – just friends.

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